This is not about hurting others or anything else. Generally, negative addicts are only sabotaging themselves. The unintended consequence is hurting those that care about them, but it is NOT about being mean to others, or hurting others…
The primary consequence of being addicted, is the harm to yourself. Have you heard of “Self-Sabotage”??? Of course you have. Negative addicts are their own worst enemy, and tend to be quite loving to those around them, even when it is hurting for themselves. It will show up in your money, your self-esteem, perfectionism, procrastination, your health, happiness…
“Pain and negative emotions activate the reward centers of the brains causing unconscious addiction to those negative emotions.” Negative emotions light up the brain, activating the beta-endorphin[i] and dopamine[ii] pathways, just as cocaine and another narcotics do. Consequently, people can easily become addicted to those emotions physiologically.[iii]
While there are a number of theories underlying addiction… some psychological, social, biological and the like… one thing is clear, underlying all of those theories is one physiological truth, the release of opiate peptides which are naturally secreted hormones in the body that create a “natural high; These are the runner’s high hormones.
Other theories are that, the negativity taps into things like:
-the need for attention, the inability to give or receive positive attention, the generational and entrainment to focus on what’s wrong and of course, the simultaneous feel bad coupled with the “feel good” which is the attention we get from feeling bad.
Now being hard on yourself, and being in relationship with people who are toxic or are energy vampires, doesn’t produce the euphoric state, but the combination of the attention from being negative but the chemical rush from the feel bad, feel good floods the body with opiates… creating a “rush” that is quite addicting.
It sort of makes us feel alive… we all want to feel, and if you grew up as I did, you shut off those feelings for survival. Have you ever listened to a song that used to play or reminds you of a bad relationship… and you get a “feeling” physically?
Also, consider- if you grew up as I did, where low self-esteem, low self value were “the norm”, then you will draw those negative people, places and things to you, to reinforce that and to use as ammunition against yourself. Every time, you go to your negativity, it gives you self-importance, and floods your body with opiates and reinforces the addiction.
I know one thing for sure, if you are watching this video or reading this post, then YOU KNOW THERE IS ANOTHER WAY! You have asked God, the Universe, Mother Earth, Shinto, whatever feels true for you, for SOMETHING…. For an easier truer way for you…
The awesome news is, that there is a way to get into recovery with ease… so YAY!
[i] “Beta-endorphin.” Wikipedia. Wikimedia Foundation, 01 Jan. 2012. Web. 22 Apr. 2012. <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beta-endorphin>.
[ii] “Dopamine.” Wikipedia. Wikimedia Foundation, 19 Apr. 2012. Web. 22 Apr. 2012. <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dopamine>.
[iii] Binazir, Dr. Ali. “Addiction Recovery: Why We’re Addicted to Negative Behaviors.” The Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, 17 Nov. 2011. Web. 01 Jan. 2012. <http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-ali-binazir/addiction-recovery-why-we_b_603566.html>.