Much has been made since the phenomenon that was the secret about positive self-talk… self-talk usually takes the form of affirmations… and the idea behind affirmations, is that, by saying something in the “positive” that somehow it will penetrate our brains and stick. Now, if you have a normal self- esteem or high self-esteem this may be true.
But let’s keep it real here… how many of us, actually have “high” self-esteem?
An interesting, a study conducted by the University of Waterloo and University of New Brunswick concluded that that positive self-statements are ineffective. In fact, one of the psychologist determined that by asking people with low self- esteem to focus exclusively on positive thoughts was detrimental. She went on to discuss how the more she asked the study participants to speak in positive self-statements, the worse they felt, because they couldn’t block out the negative ones…
So essentially, if you are already a positive person, they will work…. But what about the “rest of us”????
If you want more information about what I call the Self-Help Trifecta and all of its ineffective glory, please check out the link below.
Now, you are probably thinking, ok Tiphanie, so if not positive self-talk then what??
How about being curious? By curious, I mean asking questions… in the subconscious mind video and in the Universal Law video… I talk about questions bypassing the mind muck, so you can check that video out next.
What I invite you to try is questions.
One technique is by Noah St. John, which are afformations… but here is what I do…
I ask questions all day long… but here is the caveat… don’t make a statement with a question mark or a conclusion with a question mark. You want to ask with an energy of expansion and genuine wonderment… in other words, ask without the answer in mind.
So, when you are feeling not so great… ask, “how can this get any better?” what could I choose that would shift this… “I wonder how much better I can be at my job” or “I wonder how much money I can generate”… “ What would it take for me to meet someone that could receive all of me without judgment?”
Now after asking the question… when you feel an expansive gut feeling of lightness and expansion, go and follow that…
Now if you are feeling ok… ask the same questions, how can this day be better than anything I ever imagined? How can this turn out more amazing and juicy than I can dream of… what would it take for me to just step out and shine….
When in doubt and even when you are not in doubt use this one- What else is possible here and through in a “beyond”.. for good measure.
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